​What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is abuse or threats of abuse between two people who have or had an intimate relationship (married, domestic partners, dating or used to date, live or lived together, or have a child together (source). Domestic Violence is NOT limited to physical abuse. 
Domestic Violence can be:
  • Emotional (This includes but is not limited to):
    • Extreme displays of jealousy and/or possession
    • Intimidation
    • Blaming you for their problems
    • Degrading and/or disrespectful behavior and comments
    • Withholding communication
    • Social isolation (i.e.. preventing you from seeing friends or family)
    • Threats of physical or sexual violence
  • Verbal (This includes but is not limited to):
    • Name-calling
    • Yelling
    • Criticizing your appearance
    • Actions and/or beliefs
    • Humiliating you in public
  • Sexual (This includes but is not limited to):
    • ​Sexual activity following a physically abuse incident
    • Threats of infidelity
    • Coerced sex acts
    • Forcible intercourse
  • Economic (This includes but is not limited to):
    • ​Refusing to share control of family finances
    • Destroying, giving away or selling your property without consent
    • Using money as a tool to control your behavior or get what they want
  • Physical (This includes but is not limited to):
    • ​Slapping, hitting, punching, kicking
    • Physical restraint
    • Aggravated assault
    • Forcing someone to take drugs
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The Power and Control Wheel

The Cycle of Violence

What To Do:

If you have experienced domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence 24 Hour Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).
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If you are in need of shelter, fill out a Resident Interest Form for our program. 

"Stay Away" Orders

Temporary Restraining Order vs. Protective Order

Temporary Restraining Orders and Protective Orders are sometimes used interchangeably BUT they serve different purposes.
A Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) can include orders necessary to protect your property, your safety, or the safety of your children until a temporary orders hearing can be held (​source).
A Protective Order (PO) is different from a TRO. If you or your children have experienced family violence, you may need a protective order. 

What is a Protective Order?

A court order that protects you from someone who has been violent or threatened to be violent. Violence can include sexual assault. 
To learn more about Protective Orders, click the Protective Order Kit button below.
This resource will:
1.  Answer FAQs about Protective Orders
2. Provide the information and documents needed for filing a Protective Order on your own 
3. Give examples of what a properly completed Protective Order will look like
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